How do I treat an 18 year old daughter who ran away in an act of rebellion and is now getting married?
She left and is now living at her 18 year old fiance's parents house. These parents let her stay at their house with their 17 year old high school kid overnight and buys him alcohol. He also has an arrest record and wanted to be a police officer but was dropped from the police academy when they found out he had an arrest record. Neither her or her fiance have a job that could support them but they are getting married anyway and he is going to join the military to support them.
She says she doesn't need her parents anymore and hasn't included us at all in any wedding plans and had me drop her from all insurance and even decided she didn't need scholarship money that she would have gotten from my work... "I will go to school free once I am married and my husband is in the military as a enlisted man" "We need ot get married because I had an auto accident and we realized I need insurance"
Since when is it ok to let your kids shack up with the opposite sex in your house?
Well...she is 18 years old which legally makes her an adult. Whether she acts like one or not is her choice. You raised her to the best ability you could. Let her go.
She sounds like she has it all worked out, but you and I as well as most mature adults on here know that what she thinks she has worked out is not going to be and not going to happen.
The military doesn't pay that much money, and since when does the military pay for spouses' tuition? I know they pay for the one enlisted.
If she has not included you in any of the wedding plans. You have all the right in the world to be hurt, but let her take the reins. If you are not invited, please as much as you will be hurt, it is her life, and she is the one pushing you out of it.
Just remember that she is your daughter, and she is going to need you when (not if) she falls.
